pUn!$her

to friend from me

2010-08-30T10:25:00.000-07:00

I knew that when u gave me 3 answers for 1 question that u r not living the life u expected but what can i do. i thought to ask u the question and u gave me the answer but the thing i hated most is that i didn't have a solution for your problem. I can't challenge the creations and give u a solution and that is not in my power either. So i m taking this moment to say sorry that i even bothered to ask u about the problem u r having. Hopefully someday u may see this and know how sorry i am.

take time

2010-04-22T13:12:00.000-07:00

take time to think, it is the source of power

take time to play, it is the source of perpetual youth

take time to read, it is the foundation of wisdom

take time to be aware, it is the opportunity to help others

take time to love and to be loved, it is a god given privilege

take time to be friendly, it is the road to happiness

take time to laugh, it is the music of soul

take time to dream, it is what the future is made of

take time to pray, it the greatest power on earth

take time to give, it is too short a day to be selfish

take time to work, it is the price success

take time to do charity, it is the key to heaven

today take time, or rather make time for what's really important in your life.

just remember to smile or give a hug and keep the door always open for others

life is really too short to fool around and hating others for no reason.

just tale some time and let people know that you still exist in their lives as a person that can be hold on to when they need help.

keep sharing your love cause it's not limited. God have given it as an free item so enjoy the short life that you have at their best.

Horoscope, astrology today, your luck today etc...

2010-04-08T02:21:00.000-07:00

Astrology, horoscopes, superstition and fortune-telling are all actions of jaahiliyyah (ignorance) which Islam came to show as false and to explain that they are shirk, because they involve depending on something other than Allaah and believing that benefit and harm come from something other than Him, and believing the words of fortune-tellers and soothsayers who falsely claim to have knowledge of the unseen in order to cheat people of their money and change their beliefs.

The evidence (daleel) for that is the hadeeth narrated by Abu Dawood in his Sunan with a saheeh isnaad from Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him), that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

“Whoever learns anything of astrology has learned a branch of witchcraft (al-sihr)…”

And al-Bazzaar narrated with a jayyid isnaad from ‘Imraan ibn Husayn that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

“He is not one of us who practises augury or has it done for him, who tells fortunes or has his fortune told, or who practises witchcraft or has that done for him.”

Whoever claims to know some matter of the unseen either is a fortune-teller or is acting like a fortune-teller in some sense, because Allaah is the only One Who has knowledge of the unseen. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning);

“Say: ‘None in the heavens and the earth knows the Ghayb (Unseen) except Allaah…’”

[Noble Qur'an 27:65]

My advice to everyone who has anything to do with these matters is to repent to Allaah and ask for His forgiveness, and to depend only on Allaah and to put their trust in Him in all their affairs, whilst following the practical means that are prescribed or permitted in sharee’ah. They should give up these matters of jaahiliyyah, keep away from them and avoid asking the people who practise them or believe what they say, out of obedience to Allaah and His Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), and in order to protect his commitment to Islam and his ‘aqeedah (religious belief).

Adapted from Majmoo’ Fataawa Shaykh Ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him), 2/123

the journey

2010-03-15T03:25:00.000-07:00

your children are not your children's

they are the son's and daughter's of life's longing for itself

they come through you but not from you

and though they are with you yet they don't belong to you

u may give your love and thoughts but they have their own thoughts

u may shelter their bodies but not their souls cause their souls dwells in the house of tomorrow which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams

you may strive to be like them but seek not to make them like you

life never goes backwards neither tomorrow is promised

just make every simple moment of your and your son's and daughter's lives better which they don't have to say i hate this life and you are not the best people i met on the journey of my life

promise them of what you can give

not in notes that can be worn in no time

which can make their lives unsecured

the best promise is love and devoted care.....

life

2010-01-26T23:34:00.000-08:00

life is an opportunity, benefit from it

life is a beauty, admire it

life is bliss, taste it

life is a dream, realize it

life is a challenge, meet it

life is a duty, complete it

life is a game, play it

life is costly, care for it

life is wealth, keep it

life is love, enjoy it

life is mystery, know it

life is a promise, full fill it

life is a sorrow, overcome it

life is a song, sing it

life ia a struggle, accept it

life is a tragedy, confront it

life is an adventure, dare it

life is too precious, DO NOT DESTROY IT.......

u living in 2009 O-o

2009-09-28T03:24:00.000-07:00

YOU KNOW YOU ARE LIVING IN 2009 when...
1. You accidentally enter your password on the microwave.
2 You haven't played solitaire with real cards in years. 3. You have a list of 15 phone numbers to reach your family of 3.
4. You e-mail the person who works at the desk next to you.
5. Your reason for not staying in touch with friends and family is that they don't have e-mail addresses.
6. You pull up in your own driveway and use your cell phone to see if anyone is home to help you carry in the groceries.
7. Every commercial on television has a web site at the bottom of the screen.
8. Leaving the house without your cell phone, which you didn't have the first 20 or 30 (or 60) years of your life, is now a cause for panic and you turn around to go and get it.
10. You get up in the morning and go on line before getting your coffee.
11. You start tilting your head sideways to smile. : )
12 You're reading this and nodding and laughing.
13. Even worse, you know exactly to whom you are going to forward this message.
14. You are too busy to notice there was no #9 on this list.
15. You actually scrolled back up to check that there wasn't a #9 on this list
AND NOW YOU ARE LAUGHING at yourself.

Beautiful woman, who wanted to get married....!!!

2009-09-19T00:25:00.000-07:00

There was this beautiful woman, who wanted to get married, but she wanted a very pious husband, so she said that she’ll marry the man who recites the whole Quran every single day, fasts for the whole year and stays awake and worships Allah all throughout the night.

She was a very beautiful woman, and a lot of suitors wanted to marry her, but they knew they couldn’t fulfil the conditions she set. Until this one man stepped forward and said he could fulfil them. So the Imam got both of them married.

After the first night of the marriage, the wife sees that the husband doesn’t recite the whole of the Quran, nor does he fast, nor does he stay awake in the worship of Allah, she decided to let it roll on for a few weeks to see if there were any changes, there weren’t, so she filed a complaint and asked for a divorce.

They are both taken in front of the judge, and the judge asked, ‘What were the conditions of the marriage?’ the man replied ‘They were for me to recite the whole Quran daily, keep fast for the whole year and to worship Allah all throughout the night.’

The Judge asked, ‘ did you fulfil them? The man calmly answered, ‘…yes.’

The judge answers, ‘you lie, your wife has said that you don’t, that’s why she’s asking for a divorce’.

But the man insisted that he had fulfilled the conditions, so the judge asked, ‘did you recite the full Quran everyday?’ The man answered yes. The Judge, baffled asked, ‘how? How can you do that?’ The man coolly answered, ‘I recite Surah Ikhlas three times a day and according to Prophet Muhammad (saw), reciting Surah Ikhlas three times is equivalent to reciting the whole Quran.’ The Judge was intrigued, so he asked, ‘how did you fast the whole year?’ The man answered, ‘ I fasted for the whole month of Ramadan, then kept another six fasts in the month of Shawwal, according to Prophet Muhammad (saw), keeping all of the fast of Ramadan then keeping six fasts in the month of Shawwal, is as if you have fasted for the whole year.’

The Judge remained silent, he couldn’t give a reply saying the man was wrong, so finally he asked, ‘ how did you stay awake all night and worship Allah, when your wife saw you sleeping?’ The Judge thought the man wouldn’t be able to answer this one, but the man, cool as a cucumber answered, ‘I prayed Salatul Isha with jamaat, then the next day prayed Salatul Fajr with jamaat, according to Prophet Muhammad (saw), the one who prays Salatul Isha and Salatul Fajr with jamaat, it is as if he had stayed up all night worshipping Allah.’

The Judge sat there looking at the man; the final verdict was about to be released…

He said to the man and his wife, ‘…go, just go, there is nothing wrong with this marriage’…

sOmeth!ng to th!nk abOut

2009-09-15T22:50:00.000-07:00

Concentrate on this Sentence

'To get something you never had, you have to do something you never did.' When
God takes something from your grasp, He's not punishing you, but merely opening
your hands to receive something better. Concentrate on this sentence... 'The
will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect you.'

There comes a point in your life when you realize:

Who matters,
Who never did,
Who won't anymore...
And who always will.
So, don't worry about people from your past,
there's a reason why they didn't make it to your future.

i Belive ...

2009-08-07T23:37:00.000-07:00

How to Grow Happiness

2009-07-18T00:26:00.000-07:00

Step 1:

Plant yourself deep in a bed of faith,

and pack it down solid and tight. Drench

daily with positive thinking, and keep

saturated just right. Mulch often with

forgiveness, for this will help you grow.

Quickly remove any seeds of worry,

for they will soon germinate, and keep

out the weeds of despair. Nourish

disappointments with hope whenever it is

needed, and always stay cool and shaded

when you feel irritated or heated. Trim

away guilt or depression, for they create

decay, and cultivate with happy memories

as often as every day.

Step 2:

Harvest the lessons of the past; just

dig, pick, and hoe. And nurture the roots

of the present, for now is when you

flourish and grow. Start planting for the

future; set your goals in a row. Spade

the bed well for all your dreams to grow.

Step 3:

Remember that grief is a natural

predator, so learn to tolerate some

damage. Protect your garden with daily

prayers, for this will help you manage.

Bury the criticism and complaining, for

they are injurious pests.

Sow the seed of love wherever you

you may go - for joy, love, and laughter

are surely bound to grow. Although the

thorns of life may be here to stay, just

sprout a smile along the way... and be

thankful for what you have today!

This is !T !!!!!!!!!!

2009-07-11T01:55:00.000-07:00

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve
then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
DO NOT SETTLE!! If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably Is!
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant,
Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has
more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord!? If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way
street.
You need time to heal between relationships..........there is nothing cute
about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists
of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not
supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone SMILE, another
RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate
them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.

music

2009-06-29T00:08:00.000-07:00

There is something romantic about sitting in a small place with a single performer playing. It screams romance. The beauty of the situation is that you have some great background music and you can still have a in depth conversation. This is great for a first date also as it gives you a starting point of conversation as you discuss the music the artists is playing. The atmosphere at someplace like this is usually relaxed and allows you to feel more comfortable. Some of these artists might even take request from the audience.

Do a little research into the kind of music that will be played, you can ask someone that works at the venue they will usually have a good idea. Also find a place that has some character and has been in business a while, that way you know what you will be getting. Newer places are still trying to find their market so they might have different types of performers each night. When all else fails look for a place that plays the blues.

Okay you have the formula, now go out and find your little hole in the wall. Soon you will be staring into each others eyes while someone strums on a beat up guitar. Sipping drinks and having good conversation what more can you ask for?

Truth facts of life you can never forget

2009-06-12T21:29:00.000-07:00

1. I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you.

2. No man or woman is worth your tears, and the one who is, won't make you cry.

3. Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.

4. A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart.

5. The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them knowing you can't have them.

6. Never frown, even when you are sad, because you never know who is falling in love with your smile.

7. To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.

8. Don't waste your time on a man/woman, who isn't willing to waste their time on you.

9. Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one, so that when we finally meet the person, we will know how to be grateful.

10. Don't cry because it is over, smile because it happened.

11. There's always going to be people that hurt you so what you have to do is keep on trusting and just be more careful about who you trust next time around.

12. Make yourself a better person and know who you are before you try and know someone else and expect them to know you.

13. Don't try so hard, the best things come when you least expect them to.

REMEMBER: WHATEVER HAPPENS, HAPPENS FOR A REASON.

Don't eat chicken sandwiches, no matter what.....

2009-05-17T00:41:00.000-07:00

A little boy and a little girl attended the same school and became friends.
Every day they would sit together to eat their lunch. They discovered that

they both brought chicken sandwiches every day!
This went on all through the fourth and fifth grades, until one day he
noticed that her sandwich wasn't a chicken sandwich.
He said, "Hey, how come you're not eating chicken, don't you like it anymore?"
She said "I love it but I have to stop eating it."
"Why?" he asked.
She pointed to her lap and said "Cause I'm starting to grow little feathers down there!"

"Let me see" he said.
"Okay" and she pulled up her skirt.
He looked and said, "That's right. You are! Better not eat any more chicken."
He kept eating his chicken sandwiches until one day he brought peanut butter.

He said to the little girl, "I have to stop eating chicken sandwiches, I'm starting to get feathers down there too!"
. She asked if she could look, so he pulled down his pants for her
She said
"Oh, my God, it's too late for you! You've already got the neck and the gizzards!!!

From a guys point of view:

2009-05-13T02:02:00.000-07:00

You might agree with it, but when it actually happens 99% of girls don't realize it 'til it is too late and that guy who did it is so frustrated that he has moved on to someone who will take notice.

We don't care if you talk to other guys.
We don't care if you're friends with other guys.
But when you're sitting next to us, and some random guy walks into the room and you jump up and tackle him without even introducing us, yeah, it pisses us off. It doesn't help if you sit there and talk to him for ten minutes without even acknowledging the fact that we're still there.

We don't care if a guy calls you, but at 2 in the morning we do get a little concerned. Nothing is that important at 2 a.m. that it can't wait till he morning.

Also, when we tell you you're pretty/beautiful/gorgeous/cute/ stunning, we freaking mean it. Don't tell us we're wrong.We'll stop trying to convince you.

The sexiest thing about a girl is confidence. Yeah, you can quote me. Don't be mad when we hold the door open. Take Advantage of the mood im in.

LET US PAY FOR YOU! DON'T 'FEEL BAD'
We enjoy doing it. It's expected. Smile and say 'thank you.'Kiss us when no one's watching. If you kiss us when you know somebody's looking, we'll be more impressed.

You don't have to get dressed up for us. If we're going out with you in the first place, you don't have to feel the need to wear the shortest skirt you have or put on every kind of makeup you own. We like you for WHO you are and not WHAT you are. Honestly, i think a girl looks more beautiful when she's just in her pj's. Or my t-shirt and boxers, not all dolled up. Don't take everything we say seriously.

Sarcasm is a beautiful thing. See the beauty in it. Don't get angry easily. Stop using magazines/media as your bible. Don't talk about how hott Morris Chesnutt, Brad Pitt, or Jesse McCartney is in front of us. It's boring, and we don't care. You have girlfriends for that.

Whatever happened to the word 'handsome'/'beautiful'. I'd be utterly stunned by a girl who greeted me with 'Hey handsome!' instead of 'Hey baby/ stud/ cutie/ sexy' or whatever else you can think of. On the other hand im not sayin i wouldn't like it ether.

Girls: I cannot stress this enough: IF YOU AREN'T BEING TREATED RIGHT BY A GUY, DON'T WAIT FOR HIM TO CHANGE.> DITCH HIS SORRY DISGRACE-TO-THE-MALE-POPULATION ASS,> AND FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL TREAT YOU WITH UTTER RESPECT. Someone who will honor your morals. Someone who will make you smile when you're at your lowest. Someone who will care for you even when you make mistakes. Someone who will love you, no matter how bad you make them feel. Someone who will stop what theyre doing just to look you in the eyes....and say 'i love you' ..........AND ACTUALLY MEAN IT!

*****Give the nice guys a chance*****

Holdin Hands- Girls : If you want to hold his hand, gently bump into it a couple of times.
Guys : Grab it if it happens more than once.

Cuddling- Girls : When you want to cuddle with him, tell him you're cold.
Guys : Automatically move closer to her..

Movies- Girls : During a movie, if he puts his arm around you, tilt y our head on his shoulder
Guys : Lift her chin up and kiss her.

Loving each other- Guys : When she tells you she loves you, look deep into her eyes, give her a peck on the lips, and tell her you love her too.... And mean it.

Laying below the stars- Girls : When you're both laying under the stars, put your head on his chest and close your eyes as you listen to his steady heart beat
Guys : Whisper in her ear and link your hands with hers. Now make a wish about something you would like to happen Between you and your crush....

GUYS : NO GRABBING.!!

fun time OUT of Male'

2009-05-10T01:41:00.000-07:00

I was thinking that Male' was the most competitive area in politics but after travelling to BAA ATOLL i just saw something really impress me. I was shocked for a while when the speed boat came close to the island called Kamadhoo which have a population less than 500 people.
From the jetty onwards it was rocking. The competition between DRP and MDP people was just at their max. This won't be a lie if i tell you that they have written what they think about this election and for the candidates using a roll of yellow and blue cloth. Those banners will run from one end of the island to the other end of the island.
MDP people expressed their thoughts using different type of drawings rather than pictures of the candidates. After all i enjoyed the whole trip.

must see

2009-05-06T23:22:00.000-07:00

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6eqkTQamdDc

happiness

2009-05-01T22:03:00.000-07:00

For everything there is a season, And a time for every matter under heaven: A time to be born, and a time to die; A time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted; A time to kill, and a time to heal; A time to break down, and a time to build up; A time to weep, and a time to laugh; A time to mourn, and a time to dance; A time to throw away stones, and a time to gather stones together; A time to embrace, And a time to refrain from embracing; A time to seek, and a time to lose; A time to keep, and a time to throw away; A time to tear, and a time to sew; A time to keep silence, and a time to speak; A time to love, and a time to hate, A time for war, and a time for peace.
and many more that we can never express

wot u see is always not true ....hehe

2009-04-24T21:17:00.000-07:00

BE SERIOUSE...DON'T LAUGH

2009-04-09T02:18:00.000-07:00

1) Girlfriend: And are you sure you love me and no one else?
Boyfriend: Dead Sure! I checked the whole list again yesterday.

2) Waiter: Would you like your coffee black?
Customer: What other colors do you have?

3) My father is so old that when he was in school, history was called current affairs.

4) Teacher: Now, children, if I saw a man beating a donkey and stopped him, what virtue would I be showing?
Student: Brotherly love.

5) Teacher: Now, Sam, tell me frankly do you say prayers before eating?
Sam : No sir, I don't have to, my mom is a good cook.
6). Manager: Sorry,but i can't give u a job. I don't need much help.
Job Applicant: That's all right. In fact I'm just the right person in this case. You see, I won't be of much help anyway!!

7). Dad: Son, what do u want for ur birthday?
Son: Not much dad, Just a radio with a sports car around it.
8). Teacher: Desmond, your composition on "My Dog" is exactly the same as your brother's. Did u copy his?
Desmond: No, teacher, it's the same dog!

9). Diner: I can't eat such a rotten chicken.Call the manager!
Waiter: It's no use. He won't eat it either.

10). Diner: You'll drive me to my grave! Waiter: Well, you don't expect to walk there, do you?

11). Husband: U know, wife, our son got his brain from me.
Wife:I think he did, I've still got mine with me!

12). Man: Officer! There's a bomb in my garden!
Officer: Don't worry. If no one claims it within three days, you can keep it.

13). Father: Your teacher says she finds it impossible to teach you anything!
Son:That's why I say she's no good!
hope u got a beautiful smile on ur face.

A Love Letter worth reading...

2009-04-08T04:59:00.000-07:00

My dear FAIR and LOVELY (ek chand ka tukda), you are my TVS SCOOTY (first love)
and my AIWA (pure passion). I always BPL (believe in the best) and you are
SANSUI (better than the best). You are DOMINO'S PIZZA (delivering a million
smiles) for me. This is a COLGATE ENERGY GEL (seriously fresh)feeling for me.
I want you to be my life partner but I think you are worried about your father
who is KAWASAKI BAJAJ CALIBER (the unshakable) and my father who is CEAT
(born tough), but don't worry as I am also FORD ICON (The josh machine) and
rest of our family members are pretty KELVINATORS (the coolest ones).If our
fathers say no, we will run away and marry, and PHILIPS (let's make things better).
They will feel MIRINDA (zor ka jhatka dhire se lage) but I believe in
COCA-COLA (jo chahe ho jaye).Trust in God who's always NOKIA (connecting people)
who love each other. And do not forget that we are WILLS (made for each other).
Now that HYUNDAI (we are listening) the song of love, you must know that love is
DAIRY MILK (real taste of life), SATYAM ONLINE (fun fast easy) and
PARX (always comfortable). So never forget me.

Ok bye!

I wrote little but actually PEPSI (yeh dil mange more)!!.

Yours

LG (digitally yours)

Relationships: --

2009-03-28T00:37:00.000-07:00

TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.

A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call.. She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is."

Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".

NO POINTING FINGERS
A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?" The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you." We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves. If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.

CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?
A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous, sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television."

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up a nd discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.

NO OVERPOWERING
Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character." It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness. It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..

RIGHT SPEECH
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.

A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, "Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered," You should appreciate that you married me. Other wise, he will be the millionaire and not you."

Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.

PERSONAL PERCEPTION
Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market.. On the way home, a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them rides on the donkey? "Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.

Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman."
The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.

It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.

Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..

BE PATIENT
This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.

Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, "Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed suicide.

Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.

People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.

friends

2009-03-23T00:29:00.000-07:00

these are the most important people that we can find around us at any time but they can destroy our lives even. Cause when they bite they know actually what is the position that they need to bite so that it can hurt us the most. keeping them close cause they are so kind and sharing everything about life cause they are the only people who listens to everything we say no matter how much time it can take. they know us better than anybody else but who knows when and how can a person can change and what their thoughts are actually when they keep listening to what ever i say. i dont think about these things much but as i have lived a great part of my life in this world and i have experienced these type of situations and have seen so many things like this and some friends have told me about their experiences i really dont know how to describe the real meaning of friends. lot of people send lot of beautiful mails about friends even and i dont understand how somebody can trust another in a situation like these. can somebody just forget everything and start over again ??....

truth of life

2009-03-05T00:56:00.000-08:00

HUMAN BEINGS ARE SUCH SMALL CREATURES, AREN'T THEY?

SO DON'T BE TOO WORRIED ABOUT EVERYTHING,

TREASURE EVERY MOMENT, DO WHAT YOU WISH TO DO.....

BROADEN YOUR VIEW, BROADEN YOUR MIND,

DON'T WORRY TOO MUCH ABOUT THINGS THAT ARE BOTHERING YOU,

DO TREASURE YOUR LOVE, LIVE SAFELY AND PEACEFULLY,

ALWAYS BE HAPPY TO WELCOME THE COMING OF THE NEW DAY....... ENJOY THE SUNSHINE ..

ALWAYS LOOK AT THE BRIGHTER SIDE OF THINGS.....

A BEAUTIFUL STORY ABOUT QURAN....

2009-02-18T03:29:00.000-08:00

Why do we read Quran, even if we can't understand a single Arabic word???? This is a beautiful story.
An old American Muslim lived on a farm in the mountains of eastern Kentucky with his young grandson. Each morning Grandpa was up early sitting at the kitchen table reading his Quran. His grandson wanted to be just like him and tried to imitate him in every way he could.

One day the grandson asked, 'Grandpa! I try to read the Quran just like you but I don't understand it, and what I do understand I forget as soon as I close the book. What good does reading the Qur'an do?'

The Grandfather quietly turned from putting coal in the stove and replied, 'Take this coal basket down to the river and bring me back a basket of water.'

The boy did as he was told, but all the water leaked out before he got back to the house. The grandfather laughed and said, 'You'll have to move a little faster next time,' and sent him back to the river with the basket to try again. This time the boy ran faster, but again the basket was empty before he returned home. Out of breath, he told his grandfather that it was impossible to carry water in a basket, and he went to get a bucket instead.

The old man said, 'I don't want a bucket of water; I want a basket of water. You're just not trying hard enough,' and he went out the door to watch the boy try again.

At this point, the boy knew it was impossible, but he wanted to show his grandfather that even if he ran as fast as he could, the water would leak out before he got back to the house. The boy again dipped the basket into river and ran hard, but when he reached his grandfather the basket was again empty. Out of breath, he said, 'See Grandpa, it's useless!'

'So you think it is useless?' The old man said, 'Look at the basket.'
The boy looked at the basket and for the first time realized that the basket was different. It had been transformed from a dirty old coal basket and was now clean, inside and out.

'Son, that's what happens when you read the Qur'an. You might not understand or remember everything, but when you read it, you will be changed, inside and out. That is the work of Allah in our lives.'

how much actually miss somebody !!

2009-02-16T00:07:00.000-08:00

There was once this guy who is very much in love with his girl. This
romantic guy folded 1,000 pieces of paper cranes as a gift to his
girl.

Although, at that time he was just a small fry in his company, his
future didn't seem too bright, they were very happy together. Until
one day, his girl told him she was going to Paris and will never come
back. She also told him that she cannot visualize any future for the
both of them, so they went their own ways there and then...

Heartbroken, the guy agreed. But when he regained his confidence, he
worked hard day and night, slogging his body and mind just to make
something out of himself.

Finally with all the hard work and the help of friends, this guy had
set up his own company ...

You never fail until you stop trying. One rainy day, while this guy
was driving, he saw an elderly couple sharing an umbrella in the rain
walk ing to some destination. Even with the umbrella, they were still
drenched. It didn't take him long to realize they were his girl's
parents.

With a heart in getting back at them, he drove slowly beside the
couple, wanting them to spot him in his luxury sedan. He wanted them
to know that he wasn't the same any more; he had his own company, car,
condo, etc. He made it! What he saw next confused him, the couple was
walking towards a cemetery, and so he got out of his car and
followed...and he saw his girl, a photograph of her smiling sweetly as
ever at him from her tombstone and he saw his paper cranes right
beside her...

Her parents saw him. He asked them why this had happened. They
explained, she did not leave for France at all. She was ill with
cancer. She had believed that he will make it someday, but she did not
want to be his obstacle... therefore she had chosen to leave him.
Just because someone doesn't love you the way you wa nt them to,
doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have. She had wanted
her parents to put his paper cranes beside her, because, if the day
comes when fate brings him to her again...he can take some of those
back with him...

Once you have loved, you will always love. For what's in your mind may
escape but what's in your heart will remain forever.

The guy just wept...The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting
right beside her knowing you can't have her, see her or be with her
ever again.........hope you understand.

Find time to realize that there is one person who means so much to
you, for you might wake up one morning losing that person who you
thought meant nothing to you.

vaaney he dhuniyea gaa

2009-02-14T22:23:00.000-08:00

bed time song of mine.

vaaney he dhuiyea gaa thiya fadha fari nala malei
dheevaana ko'ly magey.. thiya hinithun vumey....
maazee vi loabi terey e' handhaan vumun....
beynun vany abadhu ves e ufaa veri kamey....................

maafa edhen mulhi kaunu heki ko'faa erey...
loabeega kurevunu haa kusha eki rey rey...
heelaafa bunelaa loabi ma ve yea....umura eky gaa vaanamey magey loabivaa...

vaaney he dhuiyea gaa thiya fadha fari nala malei
dheevaana ko'ly magey.. thiya hinithun vumey....
maazee vi loabi terey e' handhaan vumun....
beynun vany abadhu ves e ufaa veri kamey....................

Oagaavelaafaa bosdhy hadhaathy hiy uthuri ara yea....
shaahee paree zaadhe hen mi hithugaa rani kan kuraashey....
hiba ko ma dheefin mulhi hiy mi jaanaa...kulunaai loaibaaa agala thy hama ei vana ey...

vaaney he dhuiyea gaa thiya fadha fari nala malei
dheevaana ko'ly magey...... thiya hinithun vumey....
maazee vi loabi terey e' handhaan vumun....
beynun vany abadhu ves e ufaa veri kamey....................

vaaney he dhuiyea gaa thiya fadha fari nala malei
dheevaana ko'ly magey...... thiya hinithun vumey....
oa oaa...oa oaa...oa oaa...oa oaa...oa oaa...oa oaa...oa oaa

life !!!!!

2009-02-13T23:38:00.000-08:00

life cannot be so unfair for everyone. when i thought that this is the time that i have been waiting for such a long time it just vanished within a few moment of time. couldn't help it even, couldn't think of a way to save it even. it just vanished within seconds.
thinking about what really happened makes me feel happy. i wanted somebody who cares about my style and who can live with my attitude. i don't expect too much from anybody. i know that each person have their own style so it doesn't really matters how the other person live or says about me. wot i really cared about was living the life as it's meant to be. but what can i do when the other person cannot understand what that means to me.